When You No Longer Really Understand Your Man

Ever since the classic "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus," we have known there are some downright nasty differences between men and women. Maybe you shouldn't take every one of them too literally, but … is understanding men necessary for a relationship that works?

When a group of women sits together, they talk about … men, about their men, about the men who are still to come, about exes, whatever, about men! When a group of guys sits together, the NFL standings get discussed in detail, the Stanley Cup playoffs that just ended get replayed, and the next guys' trip gets planned! When a couple comes back together after such get-togethers, he honestly just wants to know whether she had fun, while she suspects that they must have talked dirty about their girls. It is simply unimaginable for women that this wouldn't be the case! Men don't understand our train of thought here at all!

Understanding Men Made Easy!

When a man says yes, he means yes! When a man says no, he stands by it! When he says maybe, he will never do that again, because she annoys him with endless questions, when all he wanted to hint at was that he would think the matter over! Over the course of a relationship, men tend to skip the maybe and answer with a no right away. So don't press him, just give him a few minutes to think! Never ask your man about one piece of your outfit! He only takes in the overall look. Whether the top is red or the skirt is green doesn't matter much to him. If the top accentuates your bust and the skirt shows off your beautiful legs, maybe even in high pumps, then he can show you off! That is what matters, not whether it's floral, polka-dotted or striped!

Understanding Men From the Start!

Just like women, men look for recognition and for a stable relationship where they can let themselves go once in a while. A loving partnership where he can play the protector and macho now and then, but is also cared for and pampered. No matter how much we want to retrain men, it will take generations to get that archaic-seeming worldview out of them. Provided we even want that!

Just between us, and quite honestly: it is nice to have a gentleman by your side who tries to pamper and take care of you! Do we have to be alone for years before we realize that we don't have to understand men through and through, we only have to love them to be loved? Understanding men isn't necessary for being happy!